tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666976084812162595.post8375034043326121452..comments2024-03-27T03:40:44.477-07:00Comments on Asha's musings & ramblings: The concept of unconventional careersAshahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01853943313848326731noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666976084812162595.post-8696837581939204742014-02-27T00:41:30.744-08:002014-02-27T00:41:30.744-08:00Awww......Thank you, dear swapna. Warmly reciproca...Awww......Thank you, dear swapna. Warmly reciprocate your last paragraph. Thanks so much.<br /><br />Oh yes, nobody can dictate anybody. I have no issues with suggestions too swapna. The problem is judging the word "work". People assume work happens only in offices that too corporate offices and raising kids for them is a "sacrifice" and they impose choices on others.. such words have a psychological effect on the growing children. <br /><br />Yes, your mom has done a lovely job, especially i know your mom's elder daughter. She is a rare gem. <br /><br /><br />Ashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01853943313848326731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666976084812162595.post-41043062633194793962014-02-26T05:40:30.398-08:002014-02-26T05:40:30.398-08:00Hi Asha,
It's easy for me to tell you not to ...Hi Asha,<br /><br />It's easy for me to tell you not to let others bother you when they talk like this and follow it up with unfair comparisons. Given that I am a working mom, it may not even sound sincere if I say so. But I believe that we have the right to make choices about whether to work or not, whether to believe in religion or not, whether to dress the way we do or not....those are our choices, our rights and no third person has the right to make us feel bad about those choices. I truly embrace openness as part of our Indian value system.<br /><br />I want to cite an example from my own life to substantiate this:<br /><br />My mom chose to stay at home and look after her family - there were people in the extended family and among family friends who looked down on this choice. Their conversations always put her down and even implied that she wasn't doing anything but being a 'dependant' and things like that. But I can proudly say that my sister and I are who we are because of the full fledged devotion, love, attention and care that our mom gave us by being there to raise us 24x7. And that gratitude and respect we have for her is perhaps more valuable to her today than all the criticism and sarcastic comments she may have had to face when she first made that choice.<br /><br />Today, my sister has made a similar choice. She is a doctor by profession but she wants to provide absolute and total care to her baby before she goes out to serve the society. I respect that choice even as I made a different choice.<br /><br />We look to ourselves to be happy. We can't let others dictate their whims and fancies or prejudices on our choices. <br /><br />Asha, you are a warm, wonderful and genuine person. Your family is doubly blessed that you chose to be with them and for them above everything else. Trust me on this. Keep writing and stay smiling!Swapna Raghu Sanandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10167474469892964199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666976084812162595.post-57559181026759463782014-02-17T22:26:07.438-08:002014-02-17T22:26:07.438-08:00yes, ma'am. It is irritating when some people ...yes, ma'am. It is irritating when some people in the garb of well-wishers conclude that working outside home only gives happiness. They even follow it up with comparisons. I just tell them each of us is different and can have differnt ambitions. Ashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01853943313848326731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666976084812162595.post-13365626426356962102014-02-17T22:21:49.302-08:002014-02-17T22:21:49.302-08:00full time blogger? Thank you so much. Much honored...full time blogger? Thank you so much. Much honored by those words:)Ashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01853943313848326731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666976084812162595.post-23397986164530507772014-02-17T22:20:32.829-08:002014-02-17T22:20:32.829-08:00I understand what you are saying, thank you Renu:)...I understand what you are saying, thank you Renu:)Ashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01853943313848326731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666976084812162595.post-13715746039499522042014-02-17T22:19:50.354-08:002014-02-17T22:19:50.354-08:00True, most of them think work happens only in the...True, most of them think work happens only in the work cubicles of glass chrome buildings. Thank you, shilpa:)Ashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01853943313848326731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666976084812162595.post-27601066811085226762014-02-17T22:17:22.380-08:002014-02-17T22:17:22.380-08:00I understand what you are saying, Shachi:) but it ...I understand what you are saying, Shachi:) but it is words like "sacrifice" "bored" that are trigger points for me. Why do they consider children as sacrifice? I just try to explain them those situations, some understand and some don't and so the cycle of explanation continues. Ashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01853943313848326731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666976084812162595.post-56845960748276508512014-02-14T18:22:08.308-08:002014-02-14T18:22:08.308-08:00It is very irritating when others give unsolicited...It is very irritating when others give unsolicited advice. We must follow what our heart tells us.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06682758228934966786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666976084812162595.post-56573070482477990062014-02-14T07:02:41.077-08:002014-02-14T07:02:41.077-08:00Just forget about what anybody says. They know not...Just forget about what anybody says. They know not what they say !! You are in the best position possible. Coming from another person who has an unconventional career - retirement :)<br /><br />I will only push you into fulltime working if your career option is full time blogger :):)Rameshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11782192840421019943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666976084812162595.post-5670908645779017312014-02-13T21:17:58.885-08:002014-02-13T21:17:58.885-08:00We can nevr be happy and live our life if we liste...We can nevr be happy and live our life if we listen to such people..Renuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052079745061422542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666976084812162595.post-19082932373166146852014-02-13T08:54:28.003-08:002014-02-13T08:54:28.003-08:00There are people and there are people... You cant ...There are people and there are people... You cant really stop them or change their mindsets. For most a working woman is the one who goes out of home, all the freelancing work or even entrepreneurial projects from home have no importance in their eyes! I guess, as long you are satisfied and happy, just ignore such people!<br />Shilpa Garghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11016927627801620377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666976084812162595.post-73958309860566483142014-02-13T07:24:54.183-08:002014-02-13T07:24:54.183-08:00Our country men (a vast majority) lack the respect...Our country men (a vast majority) lack the respect for non-mainstream professions. Here, there is much more respect for freelancers. You are doing the best thing for your family.....every woman I know who is in a full time office job would trade with you in a heartbeat. Easier said than done, but don't care at all about the naysayers. Are you happy? Is your spouse happy? Is your family happy? do you have enough income to make you feel content? that's it....why bother offering explanations to folks who have already pre-conceived notions about these things in their mind.Shachihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05008713817905152623noreply@blogger.com